Who has time to parent today?

I have to laugh so many times bloggers seem to blog on very similar topics close together….PhD in parenting

Time as I've have been looking at it has to be one of the biggest problems that parents suffer from today. We either don't have enough of it or we are running to a schedule. This then in turn affects how we interact with our children.
We have needs as an adult human person and our children have needs as growing developing human persons. The thing is how do we balance them and do many of us realize that we do have to balance them as they have a profound effect on both adult and child.

While sitting on the floor slowly wrapping up our Christmas presents while thinking of all the other things that I've got to do today…I thought of time.
When does my daughter get the time to learn at her own pace how to put a bit of tape over the wrapping paper? Her own pace is so important as she needs to learn how to use her motor skills the fine movements to get it just right…she uses her eyes to follow my own hands as I fold ...she can follow and try on her own and for my own patients to hold while she makes mistakes or folds in a different way. When does she get the time to act out her own ideas get a little side tracked and end up being different from me…not following my instructions but making up her own mind and her own way.

To rush a child can create so many emotions within them…frustration, anger, stress, confusion and in the end often they give up and say "You do it"… or there is a temper tantrum if we need to leave to keep to a schedule or we want the kitchen clean or whatever….OR like we see with many sleep training books and child/infant will just 'give up' withdraw and give up emotionally once they have been left for the “cry it out” time allotment.

The “You do it” is something that some parents want to hear as its quicker for and adult to do…its cleaner and less likely to break or look funny.
Some parents will by pass on the idea that the child should share in many activities a parent might be doing, for the sake of time.
Some parents want their child to give up as it’s easier to control a child who is easily manipulated.

We also in our culture have developed this idea that time is being 'stolen' from us as adults while children learn how to sleep. Parenting to sleep takes time and many parents use the 'cry it out' method to 'take back' that time that they feel has been 'taken' from them during the day of child care.
Quote "Oh I can't be bothered by all 'that' - holding and rocking"
Or
Like the woman I read about who hired a 'sleep expert' to come into their house and 'teach' their 6 month old how to 'go to sleep' using the 'cry it out' method…and while this was happening the Mother and Father sat down (for the first time in 6 months) to a nice bottle of wine and a wonderful dinner.

The question is who is stealing time from whom? And who understands the context of time?

An infant or child has no idea what time is and will take many years to come to grips with this man made ridged scheduled concept. A 6 month old child who cannot even understand most of its own body functions and not even defend its self and cannot even perform basic survival skills is expected to understand time.

So my question is - Are we expecting too much of our Monkeys?

Some of my other posts which I think link to this one…..
The Surrogate Mother Experiment
My child behavior is more like a Monkey or a Caveman