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When we hear a Dharma talk or study a sutra, our only job is to remain open. Usually when we hear or read something new, we just compare it to our own ideas. If it is the same, we accept it and say that it is correct. If it is not, we say it is incorrect. In either case, we learn nothing. If we read or listen with an open mind and an open heart, the rain of the Dharma will penetrate the soil of our consciousness.
While reading or listening, don't work too hard. Be like the earth. When the rain comes, the earth only has to open herself up to the rain. Allow the rain of the Dharma to come in and penetrate the seeds that are buried deep in your consciousness. A teacher cannot give you the truth. The truth is already in you. You only need to open yourself - body, mind, and heart - so that his or her teachings will penetrate your own seeds of understanding and enlightenment. if you let the words enter you, the soil and the seeds will do the rest of the work.
From the book "The Heart of the Buddha's Teaching"
By Thich Nhat Hanh
Monday, July 28, 2008
The Hippocampus
Yes I hear you say…don't all parents want the best.
So I come to the question asked of me...
What the heck is a Hippocampus and why should we care about it and more to the point why should I care about my child's Hippocampus?
I have to use this quote "Bet the average kiwi (person) doesn't even know they have a hippocampus, let alone how to look after it!" thank you ;-)
The hippocampus is a part of your brain…a very deep part and an important part.
Here is a link to wiki to see their run down
But I like Daniel Siegel and Mary Hartzell's description of the placement of the hippocampus (authors of Parenting inside and out).
Make a fist with your thumb curled in the middle and fingers wrapped overtop…that’s about where it is in your brain and the shape and size…if your brain was the size of your fist that is.
My first introduction to the hippocampus was from my Dad who was giving a lecture on something to do with the brain and drugs and alcohol and was requesting help in net navigation and finding good pictures to show his class (Dad is a psychologist have a look at his blogs Wisdom Psychology and Merlin's Book Reviews )
How did I remember such a strange name
A Hippo
Going Camping
With Us….
Ok ok I hear you say just tell me ...
What does the Hippocampus do?
To make it quick
· Consolidation of New Memories
· Emotions (I add the development, control and use of … this also links into my post on Infant Brain development)
· Navigation (of your body and your mind)
· Spatial Orientation …this list is from about.com
All right - its important - you might say - and I’m not going to go physically hurting my childs head so there is no danger of any brain damage and hurting the Hippocampus…right?
Brain damage with physical force ie car crash, violence or accident is one way of causing damage but there is also….
An over load or prolonged use of drugs and alcohol
Or you could subject the brain to….
STRESS!!!
Try this article "High stress levels during infancy and early childhood can lead to the poor development of communication zones in brain cells -- a condition found in mental disorders such as autism, depression and mental retardation…." Early life and stress
or …
" Stress is often measured by cortisol, a blood hormone that increases under stress. Research shows a direct connection between the stress of separation and the levels of cortisol in a baby’s blood. Hence, a baby who is left to cry at nighttime without comfort and attention experiences a flood of cortisol in his body. Repeated extreme stress responses can have an adverse effect on brain development. Additionally, neurological studies show us that the pain of emotional separation registers in the same way as physical pain. The pain a baby experiences at being left alone to cry is clearly quite intense…." to read it all the article
It’s no new idea that stress keeps coming up as our biggest problem with many many issues we have with our health later on in life. It is well documented and well discovered that it’s a leading killer in our society.
AND it is the start of our life which sets the stage so to speak for our ability to handle stress.
Being subjected to stress as a baby or a young child (or even an adult) does not seem to make us learn how to handle it more. What it does seem to do is set us up for not handling it at all well- its like a trace element that builds up in the body. Stress erodes/damages or slows the development of the hippocampus and in the developing child this would mean the hippocampus has not had that development it needed in the time that it needed and in many cases can leave us open in the future for Depression, Anxiety along with what some believe leave us susceptible other brain problems like Alzheimer’s, Huntington's and Parkinson's and even Cancer and Diabetes.
These problems can been seen in adults and may at some time be linked to stress - possibly. BUT sadly stress development will probably not be linked back to childhood stress and the amount of cortisol aka the stress hormone - which erodes the development of the hippocampus.
We can see the problems later on in life in adults but there are some factors we can see in stressed younger children through slow growth (being really short compared to your parents and friends) though they may catch up.
There also seems to be a marked slowness in learning ability (such as school work) again they may be able to may catch up, as the brain learns to make new links and go around the damaged areas (this may happen but it may not too).
But really it is something that we should not make our children go through if we want the best for them and for them to do well in their life.
How can we stress our children?
Crying alone – cry it out or controlled crying, unstable family situation – family violence or an angry caregiver (hitting and yelling), constant change of caregivers – daycare or constant changes with no pattern a child can learn…and in some cases the caregiver just not really being available emotionally will give a child high levels of cortisol our stress hormone.
5 comments:
I love your site and totally agree with you on the sleep issue. I have 2 boys and the youngest (23 months) still goes through phases of sleeping or not sleeping through the night! My oldest started sleeping through the night between 2.5 and 3 yrs. He now sleeps like a rock! Co-sleeping makes it so much easier to keep getting enough sleep even when your schedules don't exactly mesh.
Thanks for providing info on brain injury, I work in the field and there is no such thing as too much information or advocacy on that part!
I have another comment for you, Megan!
I can't agree MORE!
My twins are ENORMOUS children, did they ever thrive. They're off the charts for height and weight for their age. They were walking early, talking early, they play together wonderfully... and reading this blog makes me happy. I feel like maybe I DID do something to contribute to their greatness.
One of them at 15 months can count to three. :-) I find that pretty impressive. She was my higher needs baby and was pretty much constantly attached to me from the day she was born. She was also higher up in the uterus and her head was always poking out my side so I stroked it constantly, even in utero.
-Catherine
When these studies refer to stress, they are not talking about a couple days here and there of allowing your baby/toddler to cry it out. Rather they are speaking of more extreme stresses such as abuse, neglect etc. Be very cautious in instilling fear in people about their parenting methods. Too often there is judgment cast without all of the facts. Your child will not be damaged by letting him/her "cry it out" if you are comfortable with the decision, are loving and giving parents, and use the method appropriately. Remember that the mental health of the parents is very important for the healthy growth of a child too. If parents are not able to be healthy as a result of lack of sleep, it may mean they need to let the child "cry it out".
There is no one solution; do what is best for your family unit. If you love your child, treat them with respect and kindness, your child will be ok regardless of which method of sleep you choose. No one can make the decision for what is right for your family and its overall health.
How much…we don't know
My Dad a psychologist who works with people who abuse drugs and alcohol gave me a stern lecture when I became pregnant with Ara.
"Strictly NO!"
As all the studies that have been done in this area on fetal damage done from drugs/smoking and alcohol really have come to the conclusion that it could be any amount. We just don't know at what stage the fetus has developed…we just don't know how much has been taken in by the Mother…we just don't know the final outcome….but what we do know is that there can be damage and its life long.
Yes there are people who still drink smoke and take drugs while pregnant…that’s their choice….its not their baby's choice.
Most of us can abstain for the 9 months or more depending how 'clean' you want to be because we know its for the best.
This is where I come back to the amount of stress a child/infant can handle as it cries out.
We just don't know how long…we just don't know what genetic materials and code are already hard wired into its little body…we don't know for each child as they are all different what the affects might be…we just don't know at what stage is safe, if at all…but we do know that this is a new (as in only been around for 100 years or so) way of child treatment (and that is not long in a scientific human developmental study).
For me as I've been looking at the histories from when we as humans have been using this theory of child treatment and the correlation to the growing numbers of depression, anxiety and stress related disorders from good families is alarming and I feel that maybe we are not being cautious enough.
One telling thing for me is the change in originations like Plunket. Plunket firmly believed in cry it out between 1900's to the 70's and 80's (yes there are still a few die old hard nurses out there who make new Mothers life hell). Now as times change and more is learnt they are having to change…especially if they are trying to a line with other originations like the Brainwave trust who are studying infant brain development.
Yes you are right...only you as a parent can make the right choice for you and your family.
Only you can read what you want and belive what you want...its all up to you.
For you to make the right choice.
Good luck
Excellent blog, throughly enjoyed.
Regards
Sharon
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