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When we hear a Dharma talk or study a sutra, our only job is to remain open. Usually when we hear or read something new, we just compare it to our own ideas. If it is the same, we accept it and say that it is correct. If it is not, we say it is incorrect. In either case, we learn nothing. If we read or listen with an open mind and an open heart, the rain of the Dharma will penetrate the soil of our consciousness.
While reading or listening, don't work too hard. Be like the earth. When the rain comes, the earth only has to open herself up to the rain. Allow the rain of the Dharma to come in and penetrate the seeds that are buried deep in your consciousness. A teacher cannot give you the truth. The truth is already in you. You only need to open yourself - body, mind, and heart - so that his or her teachings will penetrate your own seeds of understanding and enlightenment. if you let the words enter you, the soil and the seeds will do the rest of the work.
From the book "The Heart of the Buddha's Teaching"
By Thich Nhat Hanh
Saturday, February 23, 2008
Save Our Sleep by Tizzie Hall or Tizzy Hall Book Review
Pediatric advice
Medical information
Sleep research
Human brain development
Human behaviour
World Health guidelines
SIDS research
Attachment research
Tizzie Hall has written this book like many other authors who have written baby help books without actually having the benefit of having her own baby. (Her son has arrived only relatively recently.)
Tizzie is said to of been a nanny for 15 years.
Tizzie does not have any qualifications listed in her book or web site (though there is said to be some possibly study in marketing psychology but nothing is confirmed.)
Tizzie is from Ireland but now lives in Australia.
Tizzie's book, which was released in 2006 co-insides with the deployment her web site. The web site is basically sales of “stuff” “needed” for baby and a forum, which is to help out with questions and problems that come up with her book.
Why do people buy this book?
Tizzie has written schedules to follow on how to feed and put babies to sleep. (This information goes againts modern Pediatric advice, Medical information, Sleep research, Human brain development and behaviour research, World Health guidelines, and SIDS research to name a few.)
In advertising Tizzie says she does not believe in controlled crying. (The book suggests a mix of Controlled Crying and Cry it out which goes against as above).
Some statements plucked from the book
“…I don’t believe this protesting cry will harm your baby in any way…”
OR
“…I absolutely believe that it would do no emotional or psychological damage to a baby to protest (a.k.a. cry) for six or seven hours if that’s what it takes for the "tantrum" to end…”
While this does in some cases ease the parent/caregivers mind Tizzie is not a Psychologist so these remarks are just as she says "I believe". (This goes aganist recomendtations from the above)
There is no referance to any attachment studies or the affects of different types of attachment nor does she talk about any brain developmental issues that children have with crying themselves to sleep. (This book would not be avalible if Tizzie followed the advice of modern researchers.)
Tizzie does not explain about the stress hormone - cortisol -and the affects on a human body especialy on a human baby as it crys. Nor does she enlighten you that cortisol is dammaging a persons brain for life. (Nor does she talk about the cortisol levels in parents who are letting their babies cry this also has a negative affect on breastfeeding Mothers as well)
Tizzie does not follow World Health Guidelines for breastfeeding (or in my opinion even SIDS recommendations) for sleeping and breastfeeding.
Tizzie begins the Save Our Sleep book talking about the death of her baby brother due to SIDS. For concerned parents this is good because one of the prime fears is the death of a child. So with Tizzie talking about this part of her life the parent may feel at ease for this story tells of her concern and that we would hope she would not recommend anything to anyone which could enhance the chances of SIDS or harm. (This does not seem to be the case.)
Some point if you need help which are not found in this book
* SIDS research specialists recommend co-sleep (by this term co-sleep I mean sleeping with-in arms reach not in the parents bed) and this could be up to the age of 6-12 months or even more for some children (see the sleep lab for the studies but also many other sites will talk about sleeping in the same room.)
* Breastfeeding on cue, they say this has also been known to lower the risks of SIDS
* Breastfeeding on cue (unlike what is suggested in Save our sleep which has feeding schedules to follow) will allow you to "have ample milk" as World Health guidelines WHO suggest (Following Tizzie’s schedules puts the mother at risk of low milk production or no production due to lack of stimulation.)
There are some good points to this book.
* Keep a sleep diary. (The book the No Cry Sleep Solution outlines how this works for the benefits of both parent/caregiver and the baby)
* Explanation of a sleep cycle
Many Mothers who are so over tired do not see how long their child is sleeping for and will often feel that they are waking up every 5 minutes. Once you start seeing the time go by then you can start working on a personal pattern for your own child....this is not a new born I'm talking about.
The Save Our Sleep book is full of ideas and experiences BUT so many people (myself included) who have used this book are so over tired, stressed and stretched that we ill do anything and follow it to the letter becoming more and more stressed when things do one work out…or in some cases they do.
It is the promise of sleep, which keeps you going and the idea that your child is odd, wrong, or being just plan difficult.
BUT what is the price of following a book like this?
As my blog is finding out…its not good.
So if you skip the bits about her strict schedules/routine and find your own (each baby does have one truly), if you skip the bits about feeding to a time table and if you think carefully about what she says about started and feeding solids then yer I suppose the book is ok…but there are others out there which are better.
I hope for her sons sake she has changed her mind I hope on hearing her own flesh and blood cry she feels that pull and maybe we’ll see a rewrite of Save Our Sleep.
10 comments:
I'm so glad someone is pointing out how much of a scam this book is! I read it while pregnant with my first child and spent the first few months after he was born feeling frustrated that he didn't eat and sleep on schedule (like the book says) and feeling I was doing the wrong thing by not being able to resist picking him up when he cried. After reading Pinky McKay's Sleeping Like a Baby which much more baby focused and is all about doing things your own way I realized Tizzie Hall's book was ridiculous, and I still feel angry 10 months down the track for all the bad advice in her book for other unsuspecting first time parents who badly need help! PS Elizabeth Pantley's 'The No-Cry Sleep Solution' also helped me understand babies sleep better too.
Thank you so much for your comment...it means a lot to me to hear about people who have had problems with Tizzis Hall's Save Our Sleep.
I don't think the anger goes away...as its like stolen moments which you could of been doing something better.
But the good side is that we have relised and we have changed...and all we can do is encourage people around us to learn as well.
I was given this book I am sure by my well meaning step mother - who coincidentally is a psychologist. After reading this book I became quite concerned as it went directly against all the other information I had been reading on the positive surroudning attachment parenting and how children are more indepndant in using this approach in comparison to babies that have been allowed to cry themselves to sleep. Thank goodness I cam across your article as my baby is due any day now and I was already stressing about her schedules. I have now bookmakred your site so I can investigate all the other links etc. Cheers
I was given this book I am sure by my well meaning step mother - who coincidentally is a psychologist. After reading this book I became quite concerned as it went directly against all the other information I had been reading on the positive surroudning attachment parenting and how children are more indepndant in using this approach in comparison to babies that have been allowed to cry themselves to sleep. Thank goodness I cam across your article as my baby is due any day now and I was already stressing about her schedules. I have now bookmakred your site so I can investigate all the other links etc. Cheers
Thank you for your blog, and these posts. I have been using the "Save our Sleep" routines for neearly a month now and I still have not reached the promised land of my baby going to sleep by herself, every night is still a battle with her crying. My husband is over it, so thanks for the tips on the other books, I'm on my way to the library now. I must admit though that there has been a drastic improvement, even with all of the crying my daughter at least does sleep in her cot for about 8 - 10 hours a night, which wasn't happening before, I just want the crying to stop!!!!
I came across SOS when my baby began to catnap at around 6wks old. I tried the routine for a week and by the end of it I was a total wreck. My baby was showing me cues, which I ignored, because I was trying to follow the advice provided by this so called 'expert'. I found out that guess what 'mum knows best' and I should just listen to my instincts and follow my babies cues - how could I go wrong? I think the best advice new parents could get is to follow their instincts. Following this book, in my opinion, diminished my confidence in my ability to parent. Even though my baby still catnaps at 3mths old Im so glad I didnt continue with it. I figure he will eventually grow out of it and the best thing I can do is just go with the flow - it too shall pass - and then there will be something else ;-).
Just a few points to note:
You are correct Tizzie only recently had a child of her own. What gives you the right to be high and mighty and suggest she is not qualified to give advice based on that? You would obviously rather get advice from half the idiots breeding out there, because their children turn out so well!!!
You are incorrect in saying it goes against SIDS research. Can you name what particular bit in the book? I have used the book for my 2 children and it works wonderfully well and it encourages sage sleeping practices. For example Tizzie advocates the use of cotton blanket only, SIDS approved sleep comforters and sleeping on the childs back. You are wrong but I would be interested to see what you are basing your opinion on. By the way SIDS Australia do not recommend co-sleeping. In fact it is the opposite. Co sleeping is a SID risk. Look at
their website!
Also the WHO organisation does offer some bizarre advice. Like not starting solids before 6 months due to the increased risk of allergy development. Recent studies have shown this to be incorrect and the WHO are in the process of revising their guidelines!
All in all the book is excellent. I know of 5 children who were raised using the methods advocated by Tizzie. All slept thought the night by 12 weeks and are perfectly normal happy Toddlers. It does work if you stick to it.
Thank you above...I often forget why I started this blog as I've leart so much.
That is one thing from my Tizzie experaince I am gratful for...total melt down and re-born into hungry for learning and angry for miss leading information and my loss of time with my wonderful child.
I've writen a post
http://parentingbabytosleep.blogspot.com/2009/03/tizzie-hall-for-money-or-love.html
in reply.
Keep looking and think is it really love you feel when listening to your child cry.
Thank you above...I often forget why I started this blog as I've leart so much.
That is one thing from my Tizzie experaince I am gratful for...total melt down and re-born into hungry for learning and angry for miss leading information and my loss of time with my wonderful child.
I've writen a post
http://parentingbabytosleep.blogspot.com/2009/03/tizzie-hall-for-money-or-love.html
in reply.
Keep looking and think is it really love you feel when listening to your child cry.
I am quite relieved to find your blog. I was given Tizzie's book by a friend who says her whole church swears by it. I have been desperately trying to follow the routine, although my baby will often cry the whole time it's meant to be sleeping (and yes, I've been trying to get him to self settle as per the recommendations in the book). Thus, if I do it Tizzie's way, my baby will have had no sleep inbetween feeds. However, I'm still desperate to get my baby to sleep during the day(he wakes very easily after falling asleep and is very hard to get back to sleep). this makes for a very over tired baby!
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